THERE IS SAFETY in boundaries. Driving lanes on the road, a fenced area warning of a nearby cliff, or even screen time limits on a phone—all of these are examples of boundaries, meant to protect us from danger.
I recently spoke with someone who told me she had been attending cello lessons for six years. She described how to hold the bow and said that she knew precisely where to place her fingers to create the proper notes. “But,” she continued, “if I were asked to play the simplest song, I couldn’t do it; I’ve never touched the instrument.”